I'm Sarah and things that I like include feminism, video games, television, (web)comics and having excessively fervent emotions about fictional characters. Mostly that last one.
July 22nd
5:50 PM
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"A woman’s worst nightmare? That’s pretty easy. Novelist Margaret Atwood writes that when she asked a male friend why men feel threatened by women, he answered, “They are afraid women will laugh at them.” When she asked a group of women why they feel threatened by men, they said, “We’re afraid of being killed."
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http://www.pbs.org/kued/nosafeplace/articles/nightmare.html (via alullaby)

That sums it up

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This reminds me of a discussion we had in school, and one girl was talking about living in fear of her safety because she is a girl, and this guy chimed in and was all “It’s hard for guys too! I’m so awkward around girls! It’s embarrassing!” Yeah, not the same thing, exactly?

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Wow.

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This reminds me of an article about online (heterosexual) dating that I read a while ago. It listed men’s and women’s worst fears about meeting someone from online. The highest ranked fear that men had was that their date would be fat, whereas the highest ranked fear that women had was that their date would turn out to be violent and kill them. 

I think that says a lot. 

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July 13th
1:41 PM
"The dining hall is among everyone’s first village stops. “When I walked in for the first time in Atlanta,” says women’s soccer player Brandi Chastain, “there were loud cheers. So we look over and see two French handballers dressed only in socks, shoes, jockstraps, neckties and hats on top of a dining table, feeding one another lunch. We’re like, ‘Holy cow, what is this place?’"
—  You guys have to read this espn article on everybody in the Olympic Village having “international relations”. Things get so debauched that the Games’ organizers have a “standing order of 100,000 condoms per Olympics.” Ahh, I really love how the Olympic games give all of us a chance to celebrate our shared desire to fantasize about athletes boning. Beautiful.
July 12th
11:46 AM
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"I have love in me the likes of which you can scarcely imagine and rage the likes of which you would not believe. If I cannot satisfy the one, I will indulge the other."
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Mary Shelley, Frankenstein. (via riverran)

#mary shelley #this quote though #it’s all kinds of wonderful #hey remember that time one asswipe was like you have 30 seconds to name something invented by a woman… #…and Mary was like SCIENCE FICTION MOTHERFUCKERS #that was awesome #thanks Mary Shelley (via snappily)

And the next time someone starts claiming that teenage girls have ruined the horror genre with romance or whatever you can be like, hey dicksmack, teenage girls and romance built your genre so sit the fuck down.

July 7th
12:13 PM
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July 3rd
8:49 PM
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"The lie of virginity – the idea that such a thing even exists – is ensuring that young women’s perception of themselves is inextricable from their bodies, and that their ability to be moral actors is absolutely dependent on their sexuality. It’s time to teach our daughters that their ability to be good people depends on their being good people, not on whether or not they’re sexually active."
June 19th
10:05 PM
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The root of the word courage is cor — the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, the word courage had a very different definition than it does today. Courage originally meant to speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.

Over time, this definition has changed, and, today, courage is more synonymous with being heroic. Heroics are important and we certainly need heroes, but I think we’ve lost touch with the idea that speaking honestly and openly about who we are, about what we’re feeling, and about our experiences (good and bad) is the definition of courage.

Heroics are often about putting our life on the line. Courage is about putting our vulnerability on the line.

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—  CNN.com in indirect defense of your blog
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June 6th
4:21 PM
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"Oppression doesn’t require intent to thrive. In fact, the way oppression thrives best is by allowing people to marginalize people without intent, as that shows that the ideologies of gender essentialism and cissexism are so ingrained in you that you don’t even notice it."
—  autumn-and-eve, on why “I didn’t INTEND to be [insert -ism here]” is bullshit (via lettherebecramp)
May 25th
2:05 PM
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"wWe let Willow cut her hair. When you have a little girl, it’s like how can you teach her that you’re in control of her body? If I teach her that I’m in charge of whether or not she can touch her hair, she’s going to replace me with some other man when she goes out in the world. She can’t cut my hair but that’s her hair. She has got to have command of her body. So when she goes out into the world, she’s going out with a command that it is hers. She is used to making those decisions herself. We try to keep giving them those decisions until they can hold the full weight of their lives."
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(On why he let Willow cut all of her hair off)

Read more: Will Smith On Allowing Willow To Cut Her Hair: ‘She Has Got To Have Command Of Her Body’ | Necole Bitchie.com

- He raises a really great point. What would it mean to believe very early that my body was mine. That it’s not for anyone or for any particular purpose other than to be mine until I decide otherwise.

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I was damned near 30 before I could believe my body belonged to me & me alone. Dear people who take an issue with this,

Let the Smiths do right by their babies & shut the fuck up about how you think they should parent.

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"Shame is the lie someone told you about yourself."
—  Anaïs Nin (via tibiagurney)
May 23rd
7:59 PM
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"The most useful step I’ve taken in the battle against my anxiety is to share my experience with friends and family. For a long time, I was ashamed of my affliction and incredibly reluctant to share it. Things I’d read in the media and been told by my peers lead me to believe that mental illness was a weakness and not something readily admitted – particularly not by an adolescent male."
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Young Peter Salter wrote a very good piece about social anxiety and panic attacks. The best part, however, is the thread that follows. Loads of advice, links, encouragement, and readers sharing their experiences. Go read it. (via guardiancomment)

It’s irksome to me though that EVEN though anxiety is explained well and from a personal perspective in the article, there have to be a few people in the comments who are like “But is this a disease? Don’t lots of people commonly get nervous before big social events?” I take it they’ve never experience a panic attack then or they wouldn’t be wondering if it’s ‘really that bad’. Jitters is to social anxiety as is one bee to a hive of wasps. Social anxiety disorder/general anxiety disorder can put you in the hospital. Me? I get related tachycardia and I had to endure some testing.

It really is from a lack of awareness though. People just don’t understand because of the stigma around discussing it, as the article points out. I do feel like it’s my job sometimes to explain, but on the other hand it’s tiresome to be forthcoming and still have people fail to grasp what you’re telling them. I wish I could just capslock at everyone YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW. It does get better with time though. I mean once you’re open about your anxiety and people have had time to process, they can be incredibly supportive.

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May 16th
5:33 PM
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"Male fantasies, male fantasies, is everything run by male fantasies? Up on a pedestal or down on your knees, it’s all a male fantasy: that you’re strong enough to take what they dish out, or else too weak to do anything about it. Even pretending you aren’t catering to male fantasies is a male fantasy: pretending you’re unseen, pretending you have a life of your own, that you can wash your feet and comb your hair unconscious of the ever-present watcher peering through the keyhole, peering through the keyhole in your own head, if nowhere else. You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur."
—  Margaret Atwood, The Robber Bride (via monkeyknifefight)
May 6th
4:19 PM
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"When I want to know what misogyny is, I don’t ask a man. When I want to know what racism is, I don’t ask a white person. When I want to know what homophobia is, I don’t ask a heterosexual. When I want to know what transphobia is, I don’t ask a cisgender person. When I want to know what ableism is, I don’t ask an able-bodied person. The contours and definitions of oppression are best articulated by the oppressed."
April 11th
11:09 AM
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heroes-get-made:

“This isn’t your typical love story…” opens the trailer for a movie about a white, heterosexual, cisgender, able-bodied, middle class, and likely loosely Christian couple who find each other through serendipity and a very small amount of actual work.

April 10th
1:37 PM
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"The real problem has been how feminist theory has confused the condition of one group of women with the condition of all."
—  Elizabeth V. Spelman, Inessential Woman: Problems of Inclusion in Feminist Thought 3 (1988)
March 22nd
6:30 PM
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"Male fantasies, male fantasies, is everything run by male fantasies? Up on a pedestal or down on your knees, it’s all a male fantasy: that you’re strong enough to take what they dish out, or else too weak to do anything about it. Even pretending you aren’t catering to male fantasies is a male fantasy: pretending you’re unseen, pretending you have a life of your own, that you can wash your feet and comb your hair unconscious of the ever-present watcher peering through the keyhole, peering through the keyhole in your own head, if nowhere else. You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur."
—  Margaret Atwood, The Robber Bride (via monkeyknifefight)